We often see affluent families struggling with their unspoiled children who are grateful and appreciative despite being wealthy in movies. Sadly, it can happen in almost every family. Yes, we all know raising a child is not an easy task. You need to be patient and consistent to follow through this whole process in order to be successful parents. Read on to know our 7 tips for raising an unspoiled child.
Just Say “No”
We know it’s tough to say no sometimes because children are so cute and all we want is to make them happy. But, you need to practice delayed gratification by simply not always giving your children what they want, even if you can easily afford it. Try to resist the urge to buy multiples of things to spoil your kids as much as possible. Well, just because you can doesn’t mean that you should! There is no need to buy a lot of toys, just a few toys and have your child appreciate what they have. That’s one of the main keys for not spoiling a child. And, when your child grows older, teach them about the value of money or have your child manage their money through saving. If you do this from an early age you may set a foundation of responsible wealth management.
People love buying gifts for children and this is a good opportunity for you to teach them gratitude. You can go beyond teaching by telling your preschooler to say “please” and “thank you”. Also, don’t forget to teach them eye contact, affection and appreciation for the kind. If it doesn’t work out, have them return the gift either to the giver or to you (for safekeeping). Make sure you explain that they aren’t yet ready to receive such a gift. And, of course, the kid can have it back when they show their gratitude.
Practice Altruism Yourself
Sharing is caring! Spoiled kids tend to be selfish, so you should teach them about altruism by introducing donation in their early age. Donate clothes or toys to those in need and have your kids be a part of that process. Doing this occasionally as a family and sort through, package and deliver the goods together. So, your kids can actually see where their things are going. And, the most important part is your children know they are doing the good thing.
Be Mindful of The Surrounding
If you only hang around other families who are not raising their kids with intention, you may be surrounding yourself with those who will not support what you are trying to accomplish. Be sure the families or friends you are spending significant time with have similar values to yours. Otherwise, you might feel defeated after a while.
Write ‘Thank-you’ Cards
Yes, handwritten on paper, with a pen! Kids these days generally have shorter attention spans. They are distracted easily and really don’t care to spend time and effort to express their appreciation. This looks simple and yet so difficult! Turning this into a habit can help your kid on the way to learning how to express their feelings and being thoughtful.
Don’t Catch Every Fall
Practice natural consequences from an early age. In addition, don’t over-protect your child from disappointments. You should understand and believe that failing and falling again is a part of successful childhood development.
Share Your Stories
You should tell your kids about the legacy of your family, which is life experience through stories. If you come from significant wealth tell the story of how that was raised and how you felt about it. If you are self-made, tell that story too, but more focus on what you didn’t have and how you earned it. You have learned a lot stumbling along the way, to make you the person you are today. Pass the experience to help your kid on their way of becoming a good person.
At the end of the day, if you have a spoiled child, you have only yourself to blame! And, that is not something money can fix. We hope these tips can help you on your way of being parents. Let us know if you have any questions in the comments!